Impression...

No matter what you do, no matter where you go, you'll hear about the importance of having a good first impression. A good first impression certainly score points and aids you in possible future meetings. It gives you an edge over others whom a person thinks more lowly. However, is it right to judge a person based on just the first impression? I dun think so. In fact, one shd never judge another person or even scold another person unless one knows the person very well or fully understand the whole situation. There's always 2 side to a coin. Never make any judgement or conclusion unless you've heard or knew about the full picture from both sides. How often has misunderstandings and conflicts result from miscommunications and misinterpretations? Have we ever sat down to find out the truth from both sides before taking any stand? Usually that's not the case. People only like to hear what they want to hear. Impression is formed from the moment a sentence is made. No one cares about why the statement is made, how it is made, whom it is addressing, the person's feeling when forming the sentence and the reason for making that statement. Reminded me so much of the subject Understanding Chinese Cinema. Like what the lecturer says, there's no right or wrong, it is a matter of how you perceive things, of course, there must be reasons to support your stand. How interesting. The moment a sentence is formed, usually the first thing that comes to ppl mind is that whether the person is refering to himself/herself. The person will always think of the worst possible scenerio. Take for instance, when i type "enough already", will you be thinking that I'm saying I've had enough of someone? Or that something is already full, no need for anymore? It could mean a lot more things, however, most ppl will think that it is the former. Hmm... it might be due to the fact that most ppl have low self esteem, so they'll usually think of the bad things first?? Oh well, as such, I decided to not be bothered too much by such things and will go and ask the person myself what he/she meant exactly. Better to clear any doubts then to let your thoughts run wild. Assumptions may only make things worse. Either that, or just dun care about the whole thing. Ignorance is bliss. Somethings are better left unknown. One can't be faulted for not knowing.

I must say, I'm no saint myself. I've made lots mistakes in my life, and I'm not as pure and good as I thought I am. However, everyone makes mistakes. Therefore, one shd learn to be more forgiving, understanding, and to constantly do some self reflections. And remember, there's ALWAYS 2 sides to a story. I've learnt that to save yourself from looking like a fool or feel guilty about wronging anyone, it is always good to get your facts right before making any judgement, if not, you might misunderstand another person, and possibly risk losing a fren.

Everybody's got their problems. Everybody says the same thing to you. It's just a matter how you solve them. And knowing how to change the things you've been through... (quoted from the song The hell song by Sum 41)